Going to Miss a Great Man

Hi everyone, this is being posted to a blog and 2 message boards so pardon me if you do not recognize some things. As you all know Tuesday we got a call from Todd’s dad that he was given two months to live. Well at 4:15 that afternoon I got a call from Todd, his mom called and told us his dad collapsed and was being taken to the hospital and to get our asses up to Payson NOW. So we went up, pretty much expecting to spend some time with him and probably come back the next day, like the last time he went to the hospital. Well when we got there he was on a ventilator and his stats were really bad, his blood pressure was like 43/25. They gave him medicine to try and pick up the vitals and make him comfortable and said we could discuss options in the morning. So Todd and I decided to stay at the hospital and send his mom home with her sister to get some sleep. They moved Roger to ICU and we were with him there for about 2 hours before they gave him some Verced so he could sleep and rest. Well I went out to make a phone call, not a minute after leaving Todd called telling me to call his mom and get in there his dad was fading fast, when I walked in the room (not even two minutes after I had left) Todd looked at me and said “He is gone” we just sat there. It was awful, Todd went outside to meet his mom and aunt, and I stayed there with Roger and just lost it. I loved that man so much, he was a wonderful person, treated me like gold and I was just so blessed to have known him. We had Kenny all this time; he was watching TV lying on the floor in the waiting room. He behaved so well, he asked to come say bye to Grandpa after he passed, and we let him. I feel it is important if a child is mature enough to handle it to not tell them no and have them never have that closure. Of course we had planned on being there only a night so we had very little clothes and with all the family coming in we ended up staying at a hotel, had to buy some more clothes for Kenny and Todd (I being a woman did have a couple of outfits) but I did have to buy something to wear to the memorial service yesterday. Can we say hello overdraft city? Urrgghhh oh well nothing I can do about it now. My ex husband and his wife were very nice, they brought Will down to us Friday from Show Low so that he could be there for the services. Will loved Grandpa Roger, they had a very tight bond and it was very important for him to be able to say goodbye. Actually when we met with the Pastor on Saturday to talk about Roger and his life we all shared great memories and at the end Will said “I just want to say he was the greatest man I ever knew” It was very emotional. I appreciate all the thoughts and prayers that have been passed on. In lieu of flowers we did ask for donations be made to the American Cancer Society, in the name of Roger E Boynton, just to let everyone know in case they feel they would like to. The service was beautiful, but now Todd, Kenny and I are home and are ready to grieve together and move on. It was very hard to do with so much craziness and family and all that up there. Last night after the service our best friends Kris and Dave took us out to dinner, it was very nice. Then my ex husband and his wife came to pick up Will and take him back to Show Low. Oh well I have a ton to do here at work. Thank you again everyone, your caring thoughts and prayers mean a lot.